Attachment theory has generated a lot of press attention recently. But Couple Fits is the first book to apply the principles to building healthier relationships and reducing conflict. Our first attachment relationship--as infants to our mothers--remains with us throughout our lives, and determines our future relationships with others. This book describes the three styles of attachment and provides a self-test so readers are able to determine their own style and their partner's. The authors then give tips for each possible combination of attachment types. Readers will learn:
- The identity of the three attachment styles: Secure, Avoidant, and Ambivalent.
- How to communicate with your partner more effectively about your wants and needs, and encourage him/her to do the same.
- How to read arguments correctly, by recognizing the issues at stake.
- How to give negative feedback in a positive way, so that disagreements don't escalate into major fights.